My sweet acupuncturist at The Point, Denver sent me this YouTube on blood sugars. I hope you find as interesting as she and I did!
Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about the various kinds of criticism that surround us. I suppose I’m wording that oddly. There are various degrees of criticism some with more truth than others. Yet even sometimes it’s not the degree of truth in the criticism but the motivation of the speaker. A person speaking something true could be meaning to really help or hurt. I think that the most hurtful criticisms can come from inside a person. I’m not trying to discourage anyone from being self-reflective–far from it. Undoubtedly, it’s good to understand oneself, knowing stregnths, weaknesses, and motivations. I don’t think, however, I’ve ever met a person who wasn’t hard on himself in one way or another. We all feel that somehow we are failures, even though those failures would never mean anything to anyone else. When we get to feeling bad about ourselves, it helps to know someone loves you unconditionally. At least, I find it comforting.
Yet there is criticism that comes from those around us that may or may not be well meant, but it shows they lack any true understanding of a situation. I think people in leadership situations end up being criticized for events outside of their control or because people under their care don’t know the whole story. Not that leaders shouldn’t be criticized, nobody is perfect. There is, however, sometimes more to a story than most of us realize. I think people who suffer from illnesses find themselves criticized too, especially if they look healthy. Be honest with yourself. I bet every person who reads this blog can think of a time when someone has said something to them, and they knew the comment came from an ignorant person.
What to do? I know I’ve probably said ignorant things to people meaning to be helpful, but I’ve only walked in my shoes. I only know what it’s like to be me. Yet I have learned the lesson from others’ comments to me or about me, I need to be cautious in my criticism until I understand a whole story. More importantly, I need to be gracious with myself so that I can be gracious with others. Also it’s good to realize what we can and cannot control. We can control how we receive and give criticism, but we can’t control that in someone else. So be open to grace, and be grateful for those who love you. That love will mean so much more to you. 🙂